Kitchen Table Truce No sides. No persuasion.
Someone you love sees Trump differently than you do.
You don't have to change your vote—or theirs—to keep them in your life. Kitchen Table Truce gives you practical, research-backed tools to talk, set boundaries, or call a cease-fire without turning family time into a fight.
Why a truce?
A truce isn't surrender
Neither of you has to apologize for your beliefs or pretend to agree.
Built for both sides
Every example on this site is tested to be fair whether you support Trump or oppose him.
100% private
No accounts, no cookies, and nothing you click in the planner is ever saved on a server.
Plan a conversation
Four quick questions, one plan: what to say, what to avoid, and how to step out gracefully.
Start →Find the words
Calmer things to say in the moments that usually go wrong.
Start →Send an olive branch
Warm, ready-to-send messages for breaking the ice, setting a limit, or repairing after a fight.
Start →Common situations
Ready-made plans for holiday dinners, group-chat blowups, silent treatment, and more.
Start →Learn the techniques
Six research-backed ways to talk without fighting, with examples.
Start →
Try a 30-Second Kitchen Table Truce
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Did you see the news this morning?? I honestly don't understand how anyone in this family can still defend what's going on right now.
Your reply
Three things to know first
- Arguments on their own rarely change minds, and they can cost you the relationship. What the research found
- Feeling heard usually comes before anyone is willing to listen.
- It's okay to set a limit. When to step back